What is Self-Acceptance?

I want to take this time to describe self-acceptance (SA) so you may join the movement. First allow me to point out what self-acceptance is not.  SA is not judging yourself or entertaining the inner critic that we all wrestle daily. SA is not looking the mirror and frowning at your body parts, curves or the lack thereof. SA is not self-loathing or hatred. Does any of this sound familiar?

Self-Acceptance is the act of achieving satisfaction and contentment with one’s self through self love. It is a subjective measure of how you perceive yourself and your path. In other words, its all about perception. Embracing your human-ness is another way to describe self-acceptance. A third way to look at SA is to adopt the lens of God, the Universe, or your creator who is not judging or condemning you.  That is right folks, God and the Universe does not function in duality (good vs. evil). I hope this fact is liberating!

Now you may be wondering how to get to this place of self-acceptance. It is a journey. You will not suddenly arrive. My first recommendation is to learn to focus on the things you love and like about your life, your body, your job, your family, etc.  Make a list in your journal or jot down a list and keep it somewhere visible like a bedroom wall or refrigerator.

Second, I encourage you to think of all the things you are grateful for before you go to bed or when you awake in the morning. If you prefer to write a gratitude list, by all means, please do! Late at night, instead of eating oreos because you are bored revisit your gratitude list. In doing these exercises you are rewiring your brain to find what is going well and what is positive!

Third, jump on Google and find as many positive affirmations as you can on “self-love”, “acceptance”, “positive body image” and so on. If you have Pinterest making a board for the affirmations may be the most ideal. If writing the affirmations helps to get the words tied to your soul then take that step. My personal favorite is writing on my bathroom mirror with a dry erase marker. I look in the mirror dozens of times a day therefore I will see and READ the affirmation. Tah dah!

Finally, adopt a mindfulness practice. My favorites are mindfulness meditation and mindful walking in nature. Mindfulness will help you to learn how to be present in the moment and not mentally entertain what you want to change about you. Being present helps you to be more observant and less judgmental. Do not think about the long nose you inherited from your dad. Think about the ancestors who gave you the resilient body and mind you have and the drive to grow. You slowly will learn to embrace who you are in the here and now and that’s SELF-ACCEPTANCE!

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Enrich is Now Open for Coaching

Good day, Enrichees!

I’m pleased to announce Enrich Life Coaching is now open! This service is particularly for those who are seeking to make life changes and investments for one’s overall success and prosperity. Enrich is an empowerment based coaching approach which means you’ll be supported and guided in achieving the goals you have selected. Specialties include:

  • Life Work Balance
  • Communication Skills
  • Self-Care
  • Career Transition
  • Spiritual/Emotional Surrender
  • Women’s Issues
  • Parenting Issues
  • Boundary Setting
  • Consultation for Social Service/ Mental Health Professionals and more!

Also to keep up with the pace of our busy lifestyle all services are offered via phone and/or video chat. That is right you do not have to live in my area to receive services. Enrich can empower you from anywhere!

Learn more about Enrich Life Coaching today by visiting my website www.EnrichLifeCoach.com

Thank you for your support.

On Grief & Loss

Good day Enrichees!

Today I want to address something that we all will encounter: grief and loss.  About a week ago my grandmother, Mama, passed away. Mama was an ambitious fashionable woman who never took crap from anyone! Unfortunately she was experiencing her second episode of cancer. In 2005, she fought colon cancer. Two years ago she was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer after unexplained fainting spells. I am grateful to have shared tons of laughs, intimate moments and family meals throughout the years and especially within the last 12 months.

I want to take this time to address the more challenging aspects after a loved one has transitioned. In today’s society we try hard to escape discomfort, psychological pain and emotional distress. These undesirable feelings are also a part of living and recovery.  These emotions should not be avoided nor should they be denied or suppressed.When you feel bad, sad, angry, depressed your body is trying to communicate something is out of joint. You lost someone close to your heart of course it hurts, so let it hurt! Your pain, your sadness, your grief is a part of of the mourning process. It is a part of my process too. Embrace the pain, hurt, sadness and let it burn. The more you resist the longer the healing will take. Furthermore, avoiding the emotions can turn into anger, clinical depression or even physical ailments.

Notice I have been using the word process. According to Merriam Webster, process is defined as a natural phenomenon marked by gradual changes that lead toward a particular result. Your grief, my grief, is not a sudden change or action. It is natural and marked by slow changes that happen step by step. Grieving involves many steps towards healing and recovery. The loss of a loved one will always be a part of your experience but the priceless personal growth you experience from identifying, acknowledging, expressing and accepting your emotions is priceless. Here is a list of common emotions that we need to address to truly experience the process:

  • Anger
  • Guilt
  • Anxiety
  • Helplessness
  • Disappointment
  • Resentment
  • Frustration
  • Irritability
  • Fear
  • Hopelessness
  • Confusion

This list is not exhaustive. A variety of emotions accompany grief and mourning.  Keep in mind every person is unique hence the grieving may look different. That said, please erase your expectations of what grief and mourning should look like.  Embrace your emotions as they occur. Don’t suppress your sadness, anxiety, etc. Utilize all the coping skills you have in your tool belt. Meditate, exercise, take a walk, spend time in nature, get a massage, plan a facial, go to the spa, etc. Consider talking with a friend or seek a mental health professional. You will get through this. I will get through this. We will get through this.

Love you all!

 

 

Mid January Check- In

Good evening Enrichees!

I trust all is well with everyone. All is well here. I’m optimistic and ready for more amazing experiences in 2018. We are a little more than two weeks into the new year and I have certainly experienced some ridiculous things. Just when you thought the test was over… Nevertheless, all is well with me! I’m resilient. I want you all to know shitty, unfair, annoying, disturbing and grievous experiences are going to be a part 2018 as well.

How many of you have heard 2018 is the year of change, new beginnings and gratitude? There have been plenty of this and I believe it all. However we have to be prepared for the tribulations and devastations that come with greatness! The magic will not simply happen because you are breathing and eating. Imagine the beauty of Spring after a harsh and dry winter. It is not just the spring that brings new birth and glorious flowers and vegetation, it is also the brutality of winter that ushers in the new beginning, the new birth of Spring. Do you see where I am going?

In order to reap the blessings of 2018, stay determined, grateful, vigilant and undistracted. Every horrific thing you have experienced is slowly giving birth to what you’ve been hoping and praying for. Some labor may be more complicated and require more effort, gratitude and patience but I am here to tell you it is going to be so worth it. That said, let’s celebrate and prepare for the goodness! In 2018 your blessing is coming if you stay strong and unwavering. Honestly, you can miss it if you are stuck in your grief, anger, strife and negativity. If you get tired lean on a loved one to get you through but don’t let them do the work FOR you. If you want the reward work out your own salvation.

Peace & Love

-Tam

Look Forward in January

The month of January is named after the Roman go, Janus, with two faces.  One face is looking onwards and the other backards. We are all doing this during in the beginning of the month especially to some degree. There may be some disappointment because you didn’t complete a goal. Maybe you didn’t get that raise you wanted. Perhaps you broke up with your partner of many years. You wanted to go on vacation but it didn’t pan out. All is well!

I encourage you to look forward. Acknowledge your feelings and label every single one so you can put them away and not look back. There is nothing in the past for you. The time is now. This year is full of opportunity, growth, hope and love. Surrender to the present and expect greatness!

Close of 2017

The year 2018 is around the corner. Are you ready for new beginnings? Are you ready for change? Would you like to eliminate hurdles and barriers? Well, I know I do! There is no one way to make 2018 amazing but you can have positive expectations & good intentions. Take time in the next day or two to write down at least 5 positive affirmations for the new year. If vision boards work better for you make it a point to attend a vision board party or creation event. Make certain these affirmations remain visible throughout the year. Save them on your laptop as the wallpaper or tape them to the refrigerator! Reminder: The full moon is coming! Get ready to do your ritual for the beginning of 2018. The full moon is January 1st! Perfect timing right? I love it ❤

December Mercury Retrograde

Good evening Enrichees!

Have you heard someone mention the Mercury Retrograde this month or maybe throughout the years? I have to say 2017 is the first time I have ever paid attention to this astrological phenomenon. Paying attention has benefits!

Basically when Mercury is in retrograde it appears as if the planet is going backwards, but it is actually an illusion. It is an illusion because it only looks as though it is moving backwards because of Earth’s movement on its orbit.  To my knowledge this happens about three to four times each calendar year. The current retrograde is from December 3rd through December 22nd. In 2018 the Mercury Retrograde periods will take place on the following date ranges:

  • March 23 to April 15
  • Jul 26 to August 19
  • November 17 to December 6

These days are particularly noted for being associated with emotional distress, confusion, annoyance, frustration and uncertainty to name a few. It is often recommended by intuitives to not make life changing decisions during these times due to the emotional and psychological disquietude. This is does not mean you should shut yourself in your home and avoid living. There are positive things that can come of the Mercury Retrograde! Below I have include some recommendations for making the best of this unsettling time. The best growth can come from discomfort and even pain!

  1. Reflect – I believe this is the perfect time to ponder deeply and think very carefully about what you want for 2018. Do not waste energy on what you do not want but set your intentions on what you would like to come to pass. Feel free to write these wishes, dreams, hopes and desires down.
  2. Clean & Organize – Purge those items that you no longer use. Donate those shorts you have not worn in 5 years! Make some space for all the new wonderful people and things that will be coming into your life in 2018.
  3. Meditate – A variety of low emotions are likely to happen so let’s be prepared. If you feel depressed, annoyed, sad or anxious try not to take these emotions personally. In other words, low/dark emotions function a lot like physical pain. It is our body’s way of communicating something is out of sorts. Meditation is an excellent way to create some objectivity between you and your feelings so you can identify, manage and resolve them much better.
  4. Pamper – You work hard and you play hard, but do you pamper hard? I encourage you to take a time out at least once a day to be nice to yourself. Give yourself a pedicure or manicure. Take a warm salt bath with nature sounds for the background. Plan a play date with a friend or loved one who knows how to make you smile and laugh.

What are some ideas you have for making it through the Mercury Retrograde unscathed? Please share!